Autistic behaviors in public places

I am totally in awe reading this information right here.  They really nail it.  This is something that happens quite often with my son and it is one of the most uncomfortable situations I have ever endured in my entire life.  A raging tantrum in a public place.  Again, it gives me the sweats, is somewhat embarrassing and seems like it will never end when this happens.  More and more frequently when it is over I am in tears.  How can I help him?  I am his mother, why can't I stop this from happening?  What is making him so upset?  Will he ever be able to tell me "Gosh Mom there are just too many people in here today for me to be comfortable.  Can we come back another day?"  Or "That light in the back corner of Walmart is flashing and it's really throwing off my jive.  Let's just go?"  The embarrassment is very brief because after it hits, I am usually trying to think of what Johnny is going through and not what I feel.  Just imagine what a child having a tantrum in a public place is feeling.  It is heart-breaking.  Speaking from experience, if you see a parent having a difficult time with a child, please don't stare.  You could step out of the way, or go on about your business. You may offer assistance although this will almost always be politely refused because, in Johnny's case, you may just get yourself hurt.  I can't express to you how great it makes me feel when someone OFFERS to help, even if I don't accept it.  "Is there anything I can do to help?"  I've heard that more than once.  It shows that even though it is an awkward situation, I can see that you and your child are having a hard time.  In one situation during a tantrum a lady just came up and touched me on my arm and gave me a knowing smile.  It stuck with me for days, how nice that was of her.  She didn't interfere or make a snide remark under her breath or tell me what she would be doing if that was HER child.  ("He needs his ass beat" is another one I hear a lot).  This stranger let me know she understood.  Maybe take a few moments and check out this link.  It explains some of the reasons why a child might have a sudden outburst, tantrum or meltdown.  I don't condone my child acting the way he does, hurting, cursing, and spitting, but I would bet money there is a reason behind it.  I'm researching and sharing all I find because maybe it will help someone else going through the same thing.  And if it isn't you having the problem with your child, maybe you can be the one to touch the mother's arm and make her difficult day a little bit easier. 

http://www.brighttots.com/Autism/Disruptive-behaviors-in-public.html